Metin Tuncdoruk’ Feedback
Erdal, CEO IT Training, has been a friend for nearly 2 years. Erdal is a hardworking, focused, and driven individual. He is always enthusiastic, generous with time, and willing to help his students and his peers. He is one of the most entertaining and knowledgeable trainers I have ever had the pleasure to work alongside.
His students love him and he makes my life so much easier by making sure our clients return to Erdal. He is a great team player, a great teacher, and communicator. His personality is wonderful and he is very approachable. Erdal is well-known worldwide. He can speak four languages fluently, and has even been known to use all four together in one sentence. Erdal is highly sought after worldwide and has won numerous awards. Erdal is a great IT Trainer and I would recommend him for any role. Erdal is capable of doing anything he wants.
Metin Tuncdoruk, Group Sales Manager, CEO Training (2011)
Five Reasons Feedback is Important
Many of us are approaching the end of the year which means that feedback and year-end conversations will be in the air. Do you remember when the last time someone gave you feedback on something that you did not do in a scheduled feedback session.
If you find yourself thinking for more than 10 seconds, it is most likely too long ago. Although feedback is often frowned upon or even feared by many societies, it can be one of the most valuable gifts you can give or receive from someone. Sometimes, it can be the last push you need in order to get out of your comfort zone and do what you thought impossible.
As demonstrated by many great leaders, leadership is about supporting and encouraging talent. A true leader knows that a company or team can only be as successful and as great as its people. Without feedback, flowers won’t blossom.
Here are 5 reasons feedback is so important in our private and professional lives.
1. It can keep us going. Feedback comes in many forms, both positive and negative. However, it should always be constructive. Although it is subjective, it is often very useful. I am amazed at how many people use absolute terms during feedback sessions, especially as a counselor. When that one time you are not prepared or delivering the best presentation possible, it becomes “you are never prepared!” Or “You are not a good presenter.”
These final and absolute statements can be fatal to self-esteem, motivation and self-development and most importantly, to our happiness. These absolute statements can also set off a chain reaction that can lead to self-fulfilling prophecy, depression, psychosomatic symptoms, and sick-leaves at end.
Before giving feedback to someone, it is important to examine our motives and mood. This includes whether we feel angry, jealous, afraid, stressed, or just plain antipathy towards them. Then, it is up to us to look at the performance and goals of the other person professionally.
Sam Walton said it so beautifully:
“Outstanding leaders go above and beyond to improve the self-esteem of their employees.” It’s amazing what people can achieve if they believe in themselves.
2. It gives us a sense of belonging and purpose.
“The deepest principle in human nature is the desire to be appreciated. “William James
Many schools of psychology recognized the importance of feeling connected and appreciated from an early stage. As human beings, our core values are to feel valued, needed and appreciated.